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Have you ever been in love with a married man?
Honestly this is the situation I found myself in ,Am madly in love with a married man, And now it is like he met another girl!,suddenly his attitudes towards me changed,I don't understand him much again
:I am so disturbed.
Yes I have loved a married man so deeply ,he felt something very strong for me,
It felt like I would not live without him, it was difficult for me to go a day without him.
I still remember with nostalgia though how many times I wished he wasn't married and wished something would happen and he sends his wife away, so I can have him all to myself,
His was a young marriage, he loved his wife and does everything to make her happy, I was filled with jealousy, at night I stayed up biting my lips, knowing fully well he's curled up his wife in a warm embrace, most likely stroking her hairs, kissing her and cuddling her and eventually ending the night and starting the new day, making sweet passionate love, it was killing those crazy thoughts always fill me up with rage.
I sent messages at odd times just to get his attention and probably distract him from his wife.
Now I always imagine how I would feel if some other girl was doing all these for my husband and I found out.
He made it clear at every opportunity that he had no plans for divorce, he knew he wanted me in his life as much as I did,
, but he was married, there was nothing we could do but to quit, I had no plans of being a second wife, even if he'd wanted me to and more strongly my parents wouldn't have given their consent! at that point in my life, my conscience travelled to an unknown destination,the affair seemed okay and justified as far as we were concerned, we were in love, we made out, did several trips together, spent quality times and did business,
Then the break came when my mom found out,till date I still can't tell how she did but she put her feet on the ground and saw us wave goodbye to one another, it was devastating for me,
I went through emotional torture,I thought my world has ended, but at the end we found a way out. We stopped talking for a long time and stayed away completely from each other.
After over three years, I am still asking God for forgiveness. I pray to not have the man I will marry get into similar situation, I know It'd be heartbreaking for me, I finally found a conscience.
You see it is nature and the law of attraction does not recognise relationship status.
What helps someone out is self control and principle,
These are the elements that will help you recognise the vices in what you think feels good.
It is always about being considerate, putting yourself in the other woman's shoes, asking questions, and being sincere in your answers.
Can I let my husband love another woman?
How will I feel if my husband is giving the attention I should have to another woman?
What am I gaining stealing another woman's emotional time and sharing her moment? Would I want to be her for one day?
Would I forgive another woman if I found out she's wishing my place was hers?
But do you really understand the implications?
The man may get so carried away with you and begin to lose interest in his wife ,these may begin to affect his relationship with his woman, he will no longer be comfortable spending time with her, their sex life may begin to ebb, he may start comparing times with her and times with you, eventually his attention shifts over to you and the woman will be plunged into agony.
Cracks will definitely begin to show and the home will be distabilized and the kids will suffer the most, the distance between their parents will definitely affect them. meanwhile you are somewhere enjoying the forbidden love and playing the devils advocate.
You are disturbed he may have another girl, but did you for once think about how the woman he is legally married to will be feeling when she was also thinking her husband may be with you?
Allow yourself to step into the wife's position for one day ,imagine you feeling everything you wished her and everything you did with her husband, imagine her wishing them on you and doing them with your husband .
If you feel good, continue because one day soon, you will be at the receiving end but if they make you uncomfortable, then send me a mail to receive free tips on Overcoming unwanted Feelings and Beating Obsession. chicrystal90@gmail.com
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