Sometimes, in order to suit our intentions, free ourselves from guilt and condemnation, we often in a hurry shy away from the truth. I've once lied to myself too that distance is not a barrier to a relationship. But now, I'm a believer, I've repented from that world of pretence and self deception.
Yes, distance is a barrier to every relationship( be it dating, courtship or marriage) most especially a LONG and CONSTANT distance. Many people may argue that, when there is constant communication and love, distance will not matter. How true is that? Can words, voice alone take the place of physical presence?
Communication alone can't create and sustain a long lasting intimacy, it's physical presence and contact that can. Even if communication start it up, without physical presence and contact, it can't stay for too long. It's part of humans to yearn for physical presence, body contact, eye contact...those things, when present, they increase and intensify the level of intimacy that exist between partners.
No matter how constant communication is practised, a relationship built on physical presence and contact can't be compared with the one built on only communication when they are both managed on same level of committment.
Distance, when constant and long, can sometimes bring loneliness and emptiness. Needless to say, love itself is a product of emotion. No matter the amount of love in a relationship, there is still necessity for partners to stay in touch physically: look at each other's eyes, hold each other's hands, feel the heartbeat of each other by resting on each other's chest, feel the warmness of each other's skin without necessarily involving sex. When "physical presence" is mentioned, the thought of sex shouldn't come to mind because, there is more to sex than just the penetration. A well spent time that involve heart to heart communication, feeling of each other's heartbeat and presence is much better than penetration and ejaculation.
On that note, don't allow yourself to be fooled by anyone that distance does not matter in a relationship when there is love and communication, it does. If you must get involved, be ready to face and manage the emptiness, loneliness that are associated with it and not just because someone advised you that it does not matter.
